There is nothing like good friends and family to keep one sane. Â People who love you will take you with all your faults and warts. Â There are people I love, and who love me. Â However, though this love may seem boundless, it needs to also be respected – everyone has their limits, and when those limits are pushed too far, that love can end, and it can be painful to both sides. Â The question occurs as to whether or not that love can be restored.
Years ago I once read that love grows out of pity. Â While I did not, and still do not, like that idea, it does have a certain element of truth. Pity can induce compassion, which can lead to connection, which can lead to love. Â Love, though, is quite intangible and hard to define. Â And you can love someone, and not like them. Â Or love them, and hate what they have done. Â Somewhere, though, is that limit which, once lost, is hard or impossible to retrieve.
Trespasses occur everyday. Â Manners help assuage the incursion. Â But when is it okay to lay into someone? Â When is it okay to tell someone off in no uncertain terms? Â I think for most of us, it can be very difficult to do, but others seem to spend their lives simply telling people off. Â Routinely vexatious people are to be avoided – but sometimes the ones you love are also vexatious, out of thoughtlessness, need, whatever. Â And they need to be told . . .












